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Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by HuntahTJ, Jan 6, 2020.

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  1. So, I am extremely bored at work right now, and I am contemplating this very important issue...
    What do I do when my girlfriend doesn't support the fact that I play a lot of Minecraft at age 17? I am in such extreme distraught about this that I am loosing an exorbitant amount of precious sleep. Help me!
     
    Posted Jan 6, 2020
  2. Note: this is all 100% my opinion on this matter, I'm definitely not great when it comes to answering these sort of questions as I've never been in a serious relationship myself so I can't speak from personal experience.

    I think that it all really depends on whether you're willing to give up some of that gaming time to dedicate to your girlfriend. If she's not supporting the fact that you are playing a lot of Minecraft, then I guess you can do one of these things to maybe sort things out.

    1. Talk to her about how this is a game that you really enjoy playing and ask her if she would like to play it with you. My guess is that she doesn't feel included when you're gaming. If you two play Minecraft together, it can also be a form of bonding that can help your relationship.
    2. If she's not willing to play Minecraft with you and try out Mineplex (if she doesn't play it already), then I'm afraid that you'll have to give up some of that gaming time. With relationships comes dedication and quality time spent together, and spending time with her instead of playing Minecraft (such as bringing her to some places like the nearby park or a local shop to eat some food) would be a great way to spend quality time with her.

    That's all I have... I'm not too sure about what circumstances you are under and therefore can't make very accurate suggestions, but that's just what I have to say about this.

    Good luck, and have a nice day :D
     
    Posted Jan 6, 2020
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  3. Dump her, anyone that cant see the wonderful thing that is minecraft and mineplex for the beautiful thing it is dosnt deserve you (note: I am totally joking don't take me seriously and I hope you can work it out)
     
    Posted Jan 6, 2020,
    Last edited Jan 12, 2020
  4. Explain how it's fun. Compare it to something they do that you don't understand. If that doesn't work try taking a break from minecraft or your gf.
     
    Posted Jan 6, 2020
  5. I have suggested playing Minecraft with my amazing beautiful girlfriend, but it never works out. I downloaded Minecraft on her laptop, and began to show her the amazing mobs that most girls would find adorable, not even a baby wolf would give her a reason to play Minecraft :(
     
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  6. Heyo!
    Im sorry to hear you’re experiencing this, however I suggest bringing the amazing science behind it (Sand + Coal in a furnace = GLASS) Boom! Jk jk I honestly dont know. I hope all works out for you two!
    Cheers!
    ~Sean
     
    Posted Jan 12, 2020
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  7. I think that you must stop playing it all the time, you are almost an adult now, it is ok if you will be playing Minecraft SOMETIMES, but you must concentrate on more important things like getting a good job, getting a house and spending more time with your gf, if you like her, you must earn her respect and after you will do it you must try to make this a very very very solid respect that can not fade away.
    P.S. Girls like independent gentlemen who can do the chores that are usually done by women.
    And my advise is to learn the receipts of some really cool dishes like cream brule and some crab dishes.
    Finally I want to say that it is just an advise and I am NOT telling you that you must do it.
     
    Posted Jan 12, 2020
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  8. When it comes to adult relationships, they're not all easy and fun, and seeing as you mentioned that as the reasoning behind your girlfriend not supporting you in dedicating a lot of time to gaming, you are already standing in front of a common problem - lack of compromise. There ought to be a measure for everything because it rarely happens that two people can agree on every matter.

    In this particular situation, you might want to slow down and think from different perspectives. Most importantly, try to see it from her perspective. Does she feel neglected because of the lack of time spent on meaningful conversations or activities she takes interest in? If so, the solution is simple - talk to her and decide how much time you are going to spend with your undivided attention on her. If you've become addicted to playing videogames, do seek help, because at this point it seems to be threatening your relationship.

    If she simply finds the game childish or doesn't like the idea of you playing it at all, you should again approach her about it and explain that many adults play Minecraft, and the game is fun and means a lot to you, even if she isn't fond of it. Do remind her that she is your bigger priority though, because if you put the game above her, it's basically game over.

    Finally, if this isn't the only matter you're arguing about, you should always reconsider being in a relationship that feels toxic. Prioritize caring for yourself because stepping into adulthood requires you to be able to deal with your emotions and problems on your own most of the time.

    Hopefully everything works out!
     
    Posted Jan 12, 2020
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  9. Do not let anyone judge you, even your girlfriend. You like to play Minecraft and she should respect that. If she has a problem with you playing the game try to show her how much fun it could be. Introduce her to some Minecraft YouTubers, then she could see that people make a career out of this game. Also, show her Mineplex and see could see how amazing the community is. Minecraft is more than just a kids game. It can be enjoyed by people of all ages and by people from all over the world. It brings us all together in a way and that is why I will never stop playing it. Try to get her to understand why your interested and if she doesn’t understand try to make a compromise with her. Absolutely do not end your relationship with her because it is possible to have her and Minecraft. Remember this, In relationships sacrifices are sometimes necessary. I hope this helps you and good luck!!

    ~Degagelemming95

    sorry if I got a little cringy at some parts.
     
    Posted Jan 12, 2020
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  10. Hey!

    This situation is a great example of one that we can help you with whereas others in real life may not have the facilities for it. If someone was to discuss their relationship problems in relation to Minecraft, many would probably laugh and say that it is just a game and to get over it or stop playing it altogether. However, this is not the case at all. What you're concerned about lies on the same level as those whose girlfriend doesn't support them playing rugby or working a job they enjoy thoroughly. Either way, though, it is crucial that you are able to imagine yourself in her position (even for just a minute) and understand both sides of the argument. She's not worked up about liking other girls' photos on Instagram; you will be able to find logic somewhere if you look hard enough.

    My relationship history is definitely not something to rely on (a topic for another day!) but I can account for the fact that communication is key. Yeah, everyone says it, and it shouldn't lose its meaning. You could be in a relationship for two weeks or two months and it does not take long for this realisation to dawn whether it is consciously or not. This sounds very simple, but perhaps sit her down and start a discussion. Remember that she might find the whole situation childish, so don't get too worked up if she laughs initially or doesn't take it seriously. If you're in a healthy relationship she will hopefully be able to understand its importance in your life if you explain it properly. As @Thenorn said it would be very beneficial to you to remind her that she is your main priority, and your only desire is for her to understand and work towards accepting it in time.

    I hope that things go well for you and that you guys are able to sort it. The fact that you came on here to seek advice really counts for a lot, and maybe you received a lot more than you needed but keep it in the back of your head somewhere! I know I said that it is comparable to many other scenarios, but still... having to explain that things ended over Minecraft is not a good breakup story. Don't worry, it won't come to that with all of your newfound knowledge thanks to everyone on this thread. Still, though, not the kind of thing you want to hear back from all the girls in the group chat!
     
    Posted Jan 12, 2020
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  11. Please keep personal posts to your wall. Because of that, this will be locked. Message me with questions or concerns.
     
    Posted Jan 12, 2020
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